therapy for infidelity
& affair recovery
evidence-based therapy to rebuild your relationship
The discovery of infidelity can shatter your sense of safety, certainty, and trust in your relationship. Even if you’re trying to move forward, the impact lingers in your thoughts, your body, and the way you relate to each other. What happened may be over, but the aftershock lives in your daily interactions.
After infidelity is discovered, couples often experience:
Intrusive thoughts, mental images, or obsessive questions that won’t quiet down
Intense emotional swings from anger and grief to longing and hope
Hypervigilance, constant checking, or fear that it could happen again
Defensiveness, shame, or shutdown from the partner who broke trust
A loss of emotional or physical intimacy, even if you both want to reconnect
Feeling stuck between wanting to repair the relationship and wanting to protect yourself
Healing after betrayal isn’t about “just getting over it.” It’s about rebuilding safety, processing the trauma of the rupture, and learning how to create a new foundation. Whether it means repair together or clarity about what comes next, couples therapy can help you find your path forward.
what is Affair Recovery therapy?
Rebuilding trust after infidelity is a structured, intentional process. In therapy, we focus first on creating emotional safety by slowing down reactive cycles, reducing conflict, and establishing clear boundaries and transparency. The betrayed partner has space to express pain and ask questions in a way that promotes clarity rather than repeated retraumatization, while the partner who broke trust practices accountability, empathy, and consistent follow-through.
As the work deepens, you’ll learn tools to manage triggers and conflict so conversations feel productive instead of explosive. We may explore underlying relationship dynamics—not to assign blame, but to build deeper understanding—and work toward rebuilding emotional intimacy through steady, reliable actions.The goal isn’t to erase what happened, but to create a new foundation rooted in honesty, stability, and meaningful change.
WHat To expect in Affair recovery therapy
Part one
We’ll collect a full history of your life (including your family, relationships, traumas, and other experiences) and collaborate on laying out a treatment plan that’s tailored to you
Part two
Before diving deep into your traumas, we take the time to build up coping skills that will help keep you grounded in the present as we work to heal the past
part three
Using the tools you’ve learned, we’ll begin targeting traumatic memories through bilateral stimulation, moving you through the desensitization process
Part four
Once the traumatic memories no long feel distressing, we’ll guide you through the reprocessing phase to build confidence and security within yourself
Meet your therapist
Emma Carpenter LMFT
I believe that happier, healthier lives begin with a deep feeling of connection - to yourself and those who matter most.In my work, I help clients process past trauma and insecurities so they can show up more fully in their relationships and create meaningful the connections they long for
Frequently asked questions
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EMDR therapy helps to remove disturbing emotional reactions from traumatic memories and instill a feeling of confidence and control back into your life
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Think of memories as moving through a chain. When we have an experince, our brain processes the memory, moving it along the chain, telling us how to adapt to the world around us going forward in ways that are helpful. Traumatic memories create a kink in that chain, making us feel stuck in that trauma. Using bilateral stimulation helps our brain move those memories along the process so they can’t hold us back anymore
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If your insurance provides reimbursements for mental health therapy, you will be able to submit reimbursements just like any other therapy. You can also use FSA/HSA funds to pay for your sessions
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If you’ve tried to break out of patterns and overcome negative experiences in traditional talk therapy, but haven’t felt a deep emotional healing EMDR may be for you. If you’re unsure, schedule a 15 minute consultation to find out!
Visit our Philadelphia office today
Address
461 N 3rd Street, suite 203
Philadelphia, PA 19123
phone number
(856)288-9435
info@betterconnectionstherapy.com
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